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Emotional Self: Can It Be Too Painful For Someone To Embrace Their Emotional Self?


If one was to place their attention on their own being, they could come to see that there are many different parts. What will be clear is that they have a physical self, and then there is going to be their mental and emotional self.

This could be as far as they will go, or they could say that there is also another part of them that can't be picked up by the five senses. One may describe this as their etheric body or there could be another description that is more appealing to them.


But regardless of if this last part enters their mind or not, it will be clear that they are not just a physical body. When it comes to their mental self, this part of them will allow them to think, to reflect, to plan and to be aware, amongst other things.

Their emotional self, on the other hand, will be what allows them to feel connected to themselves and others. This part of them will also provide their life with meaning and depth, and give them insight into whether something is right for them, among other things.

Two Sides

One of the downsides of being able to feel, that's if this can be seen as a downside, is that one will also have moments when they don't feel good. However, through having the ability to feel bad, one will be able to appreciate feeling good.

If one could only feel good, they would soon get used to feeling this way and it would probably have very little effect on them. This shows how important each side is when it comes to being able to live a meaningful life.

Not the Norm

However, although the emotional self is an important part of someone's being, it wouldn't be accurate to say that everyone on the planet is in touch with this part of themselves. As a result of this, there are going to be plenty of people who are out of touch with it.

Someone like this is then going to look like a whole human being, but they won't be whole on the inside. What this is likely to mean is that they will spend a lot of time being stuck in their head.


In order for them to reconnect to their emotional self, they will need to get back in touch with their body. The reason for this is that this is where the emotional part of their being will be found; thus, they won't be able to connect to it by staying in their head.

Nonetheless, while being disconnected from their body is going to have a negative effect on their life, it doesn't mean that they will do anything about it. Experiencing life in this way is likely to be what is comfortable.

A Small Step

If they were to try to connect to their body, they may find that nothing really happens. What they are trying to connect to will be just below their head, yet it will be as if it is a million miles away.

If one can't connect to how they feel, it is likely to illustrate that their mind is stopping them from doing this to protect them. Under the defences that their mind has built up is likely to be a lot of emotional pain, emotional pain that would overwhelm their system.

Another Experience

Conversely, connecting to this part of them could just be too painful. Staying on the surface of themselves is then going to be a way for them to stop themselves from being overwhelmed with emotional pain.

Just like in the scenario above, they will be carrying a lot of emotional pain in their body. Due to this, it is not going to be much of a surprise that they have the tendency to be out of touch with how they feel.

An Analogy

This part of their being is going to be like a room that is only filled with bad memories; whereas when it comes to someone who is generally connected to their emotional self, it will have good and bad memories.

There is then going to be no reason for the former to go into this room, while the latter will have every reason to go into this room. If one has been out of touch with their body or 'this room' for as long as they can remember, it could show that what took place during their early years had a big effect on them.

Back In Time

Maybe their early years were a time when they were abused and / or neglected, which would have caused them to experience a lot of pain. At this stage of their life they wouldn't have been able to handle it.
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The only way for them to deal with what they were going through would have been to leave their body. Responding in this way would have saved their live, but now that this time in their life is over, experiencing life in this way is likely to be doing more harm than good.


If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.


Source by Oliver JR Cooper

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