Mental anguish can detour your healing journey indefinitely.
Emotional pain may darken your hope.
Physical suffering may well obstruct your healing progression.
All three – mental, emotional, and physical miseries – often accompany an unwanted grief happening. They lead toward lack of clarity and uncertainty in your thinking about how to stop grieving and start a healing process. All three highlight your fear and doubt of overcoming your sorrow and loss. It is essential you take important steps to transform your grief and loss into healing hope. The “HOW” is a vital answer you must seek.
“If I could tell the world just one thing
it would be we’re all okay,
and not to worry cause worry is wasteful
and useless in times like these.
I won’t be made useless.
I won’t be idle with despair,
I will gather myself around my faith.
Light does the darkness most fear.”
The faith to heal at the time of your darkest hour is needed to move past your fear. Recognizing that impossibilities are so often temporary is essential.
“Things are only impossible until they’re not.”
~ Jean-Luc Picard, character in STAR TREK: The Next Generation
Let’s examine together beneficial solutions that provide ways you can overcome and erase fear and vagueness and meet head-on the mental anguish, emotional pain, and physical suffering caused by your grief experience. There are five solutions you should consider:
1- Don’t Give Up Your Power
“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”
~ Alice Walker
At all cost don’t let your unique circumstance rule your emotions and hope. Take charge and rule your life from within. Your hope is a powerful empowerment. Search deep within for all the mental, emotional, and physical muscle you have. You do have your own power beyond what you temporarily believed you had when your awful grief resulted.
“Greatness is not in where we stand,
but in what direction we are moving.
We must sail sometimes with the wind
and sometimes against it –
but sail we must,
and not drift, nor lie at anchor.”
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
You must focus your attention and hold a healing effort course with a relentless commitment to weather the storm of your grief, loss and sorrow.
“No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything
about yourself or your life that you want to change.”
~ Barbara De Angelis
Seek your individual and unique power. You have more control than you think.
2- Stand Up To Your Obstacles
“Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven’t half the strength you think they have.”
~ Norman Vincent Peale
Fear and discouragement can be left in the dust if you use your greatest weapon; action is your greatest weapon. Fear and hesitation must not be allowed to molder and mildew for it grows by itself. Because of your personal grief experience you may feel you have run into a thick insurmountable wall. Don’t be submissive and give up without a fight. Determine how to go through it, or climb over it, or figure out how to work around it. Begin today.
3- Don’t Give In Until The Cows Crow
Take a firm personal stand and follow Jonathan Huie’s suggestion:
“I won’t give up ’til goats sing and walruses fly.”
Think about it: You are the only one who can make yourself give up.
“Circumstances don’t defeat you – you defeat yourself when you give up.” ~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Many give up about the time success is in the near future. They give up too quickly at the last ten seconds of the game one basket away from winning the game. Perhaps you will need to modify your efforts and the way you approach your target; keep your eyes on your goal to reconcile your grief condition and don’t quit. Keep pondering and seeking for solutions that fit your unique grief and sorrow.
“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems you cannot hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time the tide will turn.”
~ Harriet Beecher Stowe
Don’t let a temporary defeat condition last longer than it should. Giving up makes your grieving misery permanent. You’re not a product of your condition or circumstance but of the personal decisions you make. Draw deeply from the heart of your grief and loss suffering – for your sorrowful experience may be the means of personal inspiration, strength and survival.
4- Expect Hope
“Expect to have hope rekindled.
Expect your prayers to be answered in wondrous ways.
The dry seasons in life do not last.
The spring rains will come again.”
~ Sarah Ban Breathnach
Always look for hope. It is a mistake to let grief cloud and obliterate the whole blue sky of hope. Hope or the lack of optimism is purely a function of one’s attitude.
“Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass… It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.”
~ Vivian Greene
Life happens. Waiting for the grief storm in your life to pass is a mistake. Learning to dance with hope in your heart is vital to healing.
5- Gather Your Strength
The storms of life give you opportunity to learn. The grief storms of life provide another day – another way to learn a lesson for fighting the current challenge you face and the next battle.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”
~ Helen Keller
Looking at closed doors stops you from seeing the open doors of healing possibilities and opportunities. Look for your unique personal door of strength. Walk through this door before it closes. Deep within is grit and fortitude untapped until you need it.
“Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength
which will always spring up if thou wilt always look there.”
~ Marcus Aurelius
Gather solutions for the strength needed for your unique grief healing challenge. You Can! Believe this is so!